Posts Tagged ‘faith in God’

How to Manage and Prevent Loneliness

April 1, 2008

1. Do not become a passive victim – if you are unhappy do something about it . See each difficult situation as a time of learning and growth.   Read how others have gone through difficult times and learn from them eg. David Helfgott, Corrie Ten Boom, Stephen Hawking – he was totally paralysed and could only move his mouth, Ben Weir – Hostage in -Hostage out.Be thankful you have the use of your mind and body and can take action for yourself

2.      Develop Your Self Esteem: learn to feel comfortable and to like who you are

3.      Develop a few nourishing relationships – where you can be yourself.   Not just one person can meet all your needs. 

4.      Keep Busy with a Life Enhancing Activity – use your talents and potential . Be creative. Be a tourist in your own town.

5.      Music & Poetry – Try listening to Beethoven or other classical composers or read poetry to expand your thinking. Create images of inspiration, expansion , how we see God. Don’t put life or God in a box. Don’t feel locked into your life situation. Be expansive into how you look at life.  

6.      Use Spirituality to Console You – eg. Develop your faith in God

7.      Don’t Allow Loneliness to Paralyse You – plan and create activities to get you out of it. Don’t let it prevent you from doing what you want to do.

8.      You need a Community : of people around you to alleviate your loneliness, not just one sustained relationship. Worship with God’s people.

9.      Refine what you want and don’t want in life : learn from life’s experiences

10. Have a Sure Sense of Self – because when we get lonely it is tempting to look for other people for our identity

11. Accept Yourself – for who you are for all your beauty and quirks. There can be positive voices that we hear in solitude but they can grow faint when entering the real world.   Eg. Book called “The Boy & His Horse”   – it was only when the boy became alone that he met Aslan – the Christ-like figure who had been waiting for him.

12. Help Others Who are Less Fortunate – in some way

13. Learn Contentment – Philippians 4: 10-13. Ask God to help you depend on Him each day.

By Adelle Arwen
Gospel Singer Songwriter & Recording Artist