Archive for the ‘Relationships’ Category

Why Hurt People Hurt People

May 4, 2009

I read an article a few years ago which gives a good insight into hurting and wounded
people.  It is by Joseph Mattera.  I found it again on a marriage website.  However this
does not just apply to a marriage context.  It may prove insightful reading to help you
identify hurting people or if you maybe one yourself.

NB.  Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most)






Do You Have a Question?

May 1, 2009

Ask a Question

Do you have a question about God, the Bible, christianity or spiritual things ?  Perhaps you are searching and would like to find out more about God.  Then please feel free to ask your question by emailing me at .  I will try to answer your question.  Otherwise I will do my best to find out for you.

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God Bless

A Prophet’s Reward Could be Your Reward

April 16, 2009

I discovered a passage in the bible a few weeks ago. It comes from Matthew 10:40-42 where Jesus says :-

” He who receives you (a disciple), receives me (Jesus) and he who receives me (Jesus) receives the one who sent me (God the Father). Anyone who receives a prophet because he is a prophet will receive a prophet’s reward, and anyone who receives a righteous man because he is a righteous man, will receive a righteous man’s reward. And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones because he is my disciple, I tell you the truth, he will certainly not lose his reward.”

This passage can be interpreted as follows:-  if anyone gives honour and or practical help to a righteous person ,disciple or prophet of Jesus,  then that helper will receive the same reward as the righteous person himself.  The word “prophet”  can also refer to a worthy Christian ministry.  Hence if we choose to honour and help another person’s ministry done in Jesus’ name,  then we will receive the same reward that that ministry will receive. 

This means that all of us do not need to be involved in our own full time Christian ministry.  Instead if we give honour , kindness, gifts or practical help to another worthy full time Christian ministry then we will receive their same reward.

This can even apply to non believers.  A good example of this was in the Old Testament where the prostitute Rahab  chose to help God’s spies by hiding them in her house. Joshua – chapters 2 & 6. In return even though her whole city was completely destroyed, she and her whole family were spared and enjoyed a new life as part of God’s family.

This concept is also evident  in Genesis 12:3 when God first called Abram
” I will bless those who bless you,  and whoever curses you, I will curse”

Let us consider and pray how we can bless the ministry of our place of worship or other worthy Christian ministries.

Why Men Hate Going To Church

April 7, 2009

Here is a blog which may prove interesting reading whether you agree with the views expressed or not.


How Jesus Viewed Women

March 23, 2009

The following is an interesting article I found in the YWAM Associates website.  It is written by one of the directors of this organisation called Peter Jordan.  YWAM stands for “Youth With a Mission” a missionary organisation which focuses on evangelism and mercy ministries.


I never met any of my grandparents. My mother died young (53) from medical neglect due to our family being in a prison camp for 3 1/2 years in China during WW2. She was a woman of grace, serving as a missionary in China for most of her life. I have one sister who is very dear to me; I am blessed with one wife and three daughters, all of whom I love deeply. All these women have played very important roles in my life. Which is not to say that I have respected and honored women the way that Jesus clearly showed me that I should.

Jesus had a lot more to do with and say about women than you might think. The way we men have treated ‘the fair sex’ down through the ages . . . well, it just hasn’t been fair. Nor has it been just.

Let’s start with some questions: How many of Jesus’ disciples were women? When Jesus taught the multitudes and the thousands and the few, how many were women? What group of people comprised Jesus’ financial support team? What was the gender of his disciples who stayed with him at the cross? To whom did Jesus pay what is probably the most profound compliment – of all the encouraging things he ever said – to any individual?

Jesus pioneered a new status toward women, but we men have mostly not ‘got it’ yet. Jesus knew that his mother was blessed among all women – and honored her as such. Mary and Martha were two of his closest friends. He chatted – alone! – with a Samaritan woman . . . and then horror of horrors, he spoke kindly and uncondemningly to an adulterous woman. He allowed a prostitute to anoint him with perfume. He interacted with many more women during his short life.

Yet in all this, he did not sin. Tempted, yes, but he did not sin, even in his mind.

How many of Jesus’ disciples were women? We tend to think of just the 12, but there were at least 500 people who followed him (1 Cor 15:6, The Message). Many, or perhaps most of these would have been women.

We don’t know the gender breakdown of the multitudes who heard Jesus teach, but my guess would be that most of them were women, even though in that culture they had been relegated to a lesser position in life.

Answers to the questions above . . . Did you know that:

Jesus’ financial support team (at least the ones that we know about), included Mary Magdalene, Joanna, Susannah and many others (Luke 8:2-3).

Only women followers stayed with Jesus at the cross.

And the most profound compliment given by Jesus? Right after a woman poured costly perfume over his head (it was kind of like giving flowers before the funeral), Jesus said of her, “She has done something wonderfully significant for me . . . she did what she could – she pre-anointed my body for burial . . . and you can be sure that wherever in the whole world the Message is preached, what she did is going to be talked about admiringly.” (Mark 14: 6-9 The Message)

I read somewhere, that thankfully, Jesus was the ultimate rebel! He defended women, revealed truths to them that He had not told another, and appeared to them first after He died. The way He valued women was a concept that shook that culture to the heart. Paul insisted that, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Jesus Christ.” (Gal 3:28) This is a core-essential emphasis. No human being is excluded from service to God. (Writer of this paragraph, unknown.)

Men, let’s treat women the way Jesus did.

Peter Jordan
YWAM Associates

“Christians” by Maya Angelou

March 8, 2009

This is a poem to remind us about who we really are as Christians.   It also helps to dispel the myth that  Christians are supposed to be perfect or that Christians think they are better than others

Christians – By Maya Angelou

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not shouting “I’m clean living.'”
I’m whispering “I was lost,
Now I’m found and forgiven.”

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I don’t speak of this with pride.
I’m confessing that I stumble
and need Christ to be my guide.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not trying to be strong.
I’m professing that I’m weak
And need His strength to carry on.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not bragging of success.
I’m admitting I have failed
And need God to clean my mess.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible
But, God believes I am worth it.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I still feel the sting of pain.
I have my share of heartaches
So I call upon His name.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not holier than thou,
I’m just a simple sinner
Who received God’s good grace, somehow!

How To Overcome Jealousy

February 25, 2009

Jealousy and envy can be a common emotion found within families, amongst friends, in the church and community. It is not a pleasant feeling or experience. In the bible, God tells us that jealousy is a  sin. This is stated in Galatians 5:19 which says:-

“The acts of the sinful nature are obvious:sexual immorality,impurity and debauchery, idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies and the like”.

Jealousy can rise up within us for many reasons and sometimes unexpectedly.  For instance,  when we see our neighbour driving his new car,   the rapid promotion of a work colleague or a friend’s financial good fortune. Jealousy can also occur within the church;  like being jealous of another person’s gifts or talents,  seeing another ministry prosper and grow faster than your own, or seeing other churches attracting more people than your own.

However this article does not seek to condemn anyone.  You will probably find that if everyone in the church “fesses up”  we will find that ALL of us have been guilty of this sin at one time or another.  We are not alone in our feelings of jealousy when they occur.    We may just think we are alone,  because jealousy seems to be one of those ugly topics that no one wants to talk about let alone confess to one another.    The trouble with this sort of secrecy and taboo, is that if we do not deal with jealousy in a Godly way it will cause all manner of hatred, discord, dissension and disunity within the church community and individual families.

Even worse if we do not try to repent of the sin of jealousy,  we can find ourselves acting out our feelings of envy.  For instance, slandering  the person we are jealous of by telling lies about them,  devising subtle and underhanded schemes to cause havoc  in the other person’s life,  planning to get rid of them if they are a work colleague, or doing their work badly if required to do a job for them.

In fact jealousy when acted out & not kept in check, can turn a seemingly pleasant church goer into a fully fledged “Jekyll and Hyde” personality. 

The Good News however is that there is another way, and that is God’s way.  This is alluded to in the bible verse from 1 John 1:9 :-

“If we confess our sins, he (God) is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness”. 

Here are some practical steps to help deal with jealousy when it arises.  They may not necessarily be easy to do.  But choosing God’s way is always better than choosing the way of the devil.  Also repentance may not happen overnight but may occur over a period of time.

Practical Steps

Level 1







1.  It is good to remember that jealousy is a SIN before God.  It is not just a feeling.  Sometimes we may need to “call a spade a spade” so we don’t get into the habit of justifying why we may feel jealous of someone else.   In calling jealousy a SIN helps us to realise that it is something WE ourselves need to deal with.  It is therefore not our duty to take action into the other person’s life (causing destruction)  to make the stakes  more equitable.   (You’d be surprised how many people try to take matters  into their own hands).

2.  Realise that if you give in to jealousy and allow it to fester and grow you are giving in to Satan ,his schemes and lies.  You are really falling for Satan’s traps and deception.  Ask yourself do you really want the Devil to win in your Christian walk and be on his side?  Inside you probably don’t.

3.  When the feeling of jealousy arises try to pray straight away to the Lord and ask for his Holy Spirit to give you the power to overcome your negative thoughts attitudes and feelings.

Level 2
4.  If you feel that jealousy is starting to overwhelm you and “eat away ” at you constantly,  choose a mature christian you can trust who is assured of keeping a confidence with you.  This could be a spiritual mentor,  christian counsellor or trusted christian friend in or outside your church.  Ask them to pray  with you about this issue.  Go in an attitude of humility.  Try not to dwell too long on  all the reasons why you are jealous and feeling negative.  In prayer confess your jealousy before the Lord.  Ask your friend to pray that you will be given the power to repent, and instead to be thankful for who you are and what you have already.  Try to pray a blessing on the person you are jealous of and pray that God will destroy the work of the enemy in your life.  Ask this person to continue to pray for you in this matter.  Perhaps arrange to meet again on a regular basis until the matter is resolved in your life or you feel repentance has been achieved.

 “Confessing” our sins to a fellow traveller in the above way, can be a very powerful weapon against Satan and his schemes in our lives.  When we “confess  our sins to one another” as God commands us in 1 John 1:9, it no longer has so much power over us anymore because it no longer remains hidden .  If we experience sins that overwhelm us,  then inner decay begins when we keep sin a secret and try to hide it from God and people.  Eventually if we allow it to fester in our lives,   sin can begin to take control of us. Eventually we may become the green one eyed monster wreaking havoc openly or secretly in the other person’s life whom we are jealous of. Needless to say this is  not a good look for the Christian believer, especially as a witness for Jesus to the world at large.

If distance or circumstances does not allow you to meet with your support person immediately, talk to them over the phone.  You can also pray together over the phone.   It is better to deal with any feelings of jealousy early in the piece before it is allowed to linger on and grow out of proportion.

Level 3
5.  The following does not apply to everyone,  but for some individuals jealousy and envy can be a real stronghold in their lives.  This can be caused by a deep rooted hurt or trauma that may have occured in their early childhood or past.   For instance,  did your parents always favour other siblings over yourself,  causing you to harbour bitterness to those other siblings or towards your parents?  If so,   as an adult when you see another person who looks or acts like that favoured sibling , it may cause an uncontrollable welling up of jealousy in your own life, that you cannot explain. 

In this case,  this would probably require more deeper inner healing prayer by a trained christian prayer counsellor.   Some christian counsellors may be knowledgable of this.  The prayer ministry “Ellel” & “Elijah House” also specialise in this type of prayer ministry.  The process basically involves the prayer counsellor helping you to identify the root memory or incident that first caused the hurt in your life.  You would then choose to forgive the offenders of that situation.  What follows is usually feeling the hurt, anger, grief etc from that incident.    In dealing with the root incident from the past, and feeling all the painful emotions that went with that, the root cause of the jealousy stronghold can be dealt with.   The feelings of jealousy which may be triggered by everyday events (which serve as a reminder of the past trauma)  would then be lessened or eradicated.

6.   The final but important practical step is to try to refrain from “getting back” at the person you are jealous of.  This can take the form of slander, gossip,  trying to bring them down in some way,  causing hardship and destruction in their lives,  bullying,  hatred,  violence or starting a political faction against them in the church or  workplace. 

This step seems like a very obvious one.  However unfortunately it is still happening in a prolific way today even as we speak.   The New American Standard Bible says in Psalm 62:10 :-

Do not trust in oppression and do not vainly hope in robbery: if riches increase do not set your heart upon them.

It shows the great need that people have for the power of Jesus and his Holy Spirit in their lives.  It also shows the need for people to be presented with practical ways they can put the bible and it’s commands into practice. 

This is a big reason I feel strongly about the call to evangelism and the need to preach the message of the gospel to all the world through my gospel music and whatever gifts or talents that I may possess. 

I hope this article will prove helpful for you in your Christian walk.

God Bless


Healing for the Homosexual

January 26, 2009

It is possible for the homosexual person to receive hope and healing through the power of Jesus Christ. This can be achieved through deep inner healing and highly skilled and experienced prayer ministry. There are no guarantees however, and it depends on each individual case. Often homosexuals did not fully identify with their same sex parent. Others may have suffered some type of sexual abuse or child abuse in their growing up years.

The following resources could be very useful for churches.  Some churches don’t know what to do with homosexual people.  Hence many of these individuals end up feeling condemned,  ostracised and naturally don’t want to go back to church again.

The following are some resources that exist to offer hope healing and mercy for homosexual people.

1. Exodus International -,com_frontpage/Itemid,1/
This is an international Christian organisation which has a special ministry to homosexuals. Their aim is to provide hope healing encouragement and support for those who experience homosexual attractions. They provide trained speakers conferences, resources and real life stories, for those who have come out of a homosexual lifestyle, through the healing power of Jesus.

2. Living Waters Ministry is another ministry to homosexual people that exists in Australia. It aims to offer God’s grace, mercy & healing to those who struggle with their sexuality. It aims to offer understanding, care and a safe place for processing and restoration.

3. “Strength in Weaknesses” – this is a book written by Andy Cominsky from America. The “Living Waters Ministry” above, came under his teaching. Andy Cominsky is a Christian man who came out of a homosexual lifestyle. This book offers hope and encouragement for the homosexual. Andy Cominsky also originally came out of John Wimber’s ministry .

4. Leanne Payne – is another christian author who pioneered much prayer healing and ministry to homosexuals. Books she has written on the topic which are highly recommended are:-

a) The Broken Image
b) The Healing of the Homosexual &
c) Crisis in Masculinity

5. Counselling & HomosexualityA How-To Approach by Earl D Wilson, Ph D.
This is Christian book I read many years ago, which gives insight to some of the cases that the author has dealt with regarding the healing of homosexual clients.

It can be helpful to use these resources either for yourself, a friend or just to be better informed as a Christian about this controversial area.

The following is an email from Koorong Books in West Ryde regarding the availability of the above books:-

Dear Beverley,

Thank you for your enquirey.
I have checked our stock figures for you.

a) Broken Image by Leanne Payne – We are currently out of stock in all of our stores. However we would be happy to order in a copy in for you. It would take approximately three months as it would be sent from overseas. The price is $21.95.

b) The Healing of the Homosexual by Leanne Payne – Unfortunately this item is out of print and we are therefore unable to order it for you. 

c) Crisis in Masculinity by Leanne Payne – We have approximately 12 copies across our stores. The price is $18.95.

d)  Counselling & Homosexuality by Earl Wilson – This item is out of print and we therefore are unable to order it in for you.

In regards to out of print stock, these websites may be of some use:
1.    &

Kind regards
Koorong Customer Service
West Ryde NSW Australia

Unity of Christian Believers

December 30, 2008

At present I attend the “Servants of Jesus” christian community in Seven Hills.  It is a very friendly and loving church which focuses on becoming a true community of christian believers.  It is charismatic in style but also has solid biblical teaching which focuses on repentence and becoming more and more like Christ in our daily lives.  At present I am doing their 10 week course called “Formations”.  This goes through the important aspects of Christian living that we agree to follow in order to become a covenant member of the church.  This is where  at the end of the course we may choose to commit ourselves to the church for one year.

What is unique about this christian community is that they have a vision of bringing all christian believers no matter which denomination,  to come together to worship in unity as one body.  Hence in the morning people are allowed to attend their respective church services in their particular christian denominations.  There is also 2 services at 9.30am and 9.45am for people who do not already have a church to go to.  Then at 11am we all come together as one body to worship together in the big gathering.  This also is in the format of a normal church service which includes a sermon with praise and worship.

It is certainly a noble and biblical goal to unify all christian believers to worship together as one.  In one of Nicky Gumble’s Alpha course videos,  he mentions that in the protestant church there are about 38 000 different denominations around the world.  Often as christian we can focus too much on the differences between us like,  church format,  grey areas of doctrine and even church decor such as the colour of the carpet.  As long as we believe the basic gospel message and the obvious absolute truths like the 10 commandments in the bible,  perhaps we should focus more on what we do agree on and learn to love one another as our brothers and sisters in the Lord.  Often times our differences in opinion and preferences are attributed to what we have been used to in the past and what we have been brought up with. 

Instead it is God’s desire that we all live as One in love and unity,  so that the rest of the unbelieving world may know that Christ is truly real and through the power of his Holy Spirit it is possible to love one another despite our petty differences.    It is when  the unsaved see us working together and enjoying each other in unity,  that they will more likely sit back and realise that there is something special valuable and unique in knowing the Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

God’s heart for all the believers in his family to become one in spirit and truth can be found in the following verses:-

Psalm 133:1 – How good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity

John 17: 23 – I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one (Jesus and His Heavenly Father).  I in them and you in me.  May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.

Romans 15:5 – May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity amongst yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Ephesians 4:3,13 – Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace….until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.

Colossians 3:14 – And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Let us today, make a decision to pray for and walk in unity with all our brothers and sister in Christ no matter what our differences may be and no matter what christian denomination we belong to.

Song about Forgiveness

December 15, 2008

The following is one of the main tracks from my first album . It’s called “Don’t Close Your Heart”. It encourages us to forgive others when they hurt or offend us.  It also describes how  God  can give us the power to go through this forgiveness process to cleanse us from all bitterness and resentment.

Here are the lyrics to the song:-



By Beverley Tang


Verse 1

I know you have been hurt so many times before

The pain of past relationships have bruised you to the core

Thorns then grew around your heart to ward off future pain

But have you really changed since then or are you still the same?




Don’t close your heart to people who want to love you

Don’t close your heart to those who want to care

There’s people who care and can be true

So don’t despair God’ll bring you through

So you can learn to love again



Verse 2

Maybe you need some healing, does unforgiveness lurk in your heart?

God can free you from that sin   He can help you on that path

He’ll embrace you in His arms as He cleanses you deep inside

And like shining diamond,  there’ll be no need to hide





And then one day you’ll see a real change

You’ll find that God has set you free


Verse 3

In your uniqueness you have just so much to give

But it’s all locked away inside have you begun to live

There’s beauty there inside you, but to many is unknown

God can help you open up so your richness can be shown





© Beverley Tang  2008   


To listen to the song :-


1. Go to

2. Go to the “Songs” player on the right hand side

3.  Scroll down the song list to find “Don’t Close Your Heart”

4.  Click the play button in the middle of the screen